Consider this scenario: Your father is a type 1 diabetic. His insulin pump stops working and he hasn’t received insulin for over 24 hours. He falls into a coma. Do you have the authority to call his health care plan and get an appointment and advice from a nurse? Do you have the right to…
5 Things to Know When Caring for Relatives with Dementia
Finding out that your loved one has dementia can be difficult and scary. You know their lifestyle will inevitably change, and you know one day, they might not remember who you are. It can be a very overwhelming and heartbreaking thought, and taking care of such a relative can be extremely challenging. It requires a…
Signs of change in the Caregiving Season
Autumn colors, leaves falling, daylight savings; these are signs the season has changed from the lazy days of summer. There are signs of the changes in the caregiving season as well. • Your aging parent is becoming more forgetful • Your loved one is showing more fear of going out or falling down • He…
Home safety tips for Seniors who want to age in place
Caregiving for your aging parent or loved one in their home – Safety tips and resources Let’s face it, most people want to stay in their own home as long as possible, even when they can’t fully care for themselves. A caregiver has a responsibility is to ensure everything that can be done to make…
Dementia Resources for Caregivers – Parenting your Parents
Do you carry the tough challenge of caring for a parent as their health and memory deteriorates? What are the key signs to know when my fears are justified or just paranoia? Is her forgetfulness normal? What is the difference between regular ole’ dementia vs. Alzheimers? Learn more about Alzheimer’s vs Dementia with the resources…
When Life Becomes Too Much
“Your mother is dying.” My mind understood the doctor’s words, but my heart refused to believe them. Only a few days prior, my ninety-four-year old mother had taken a day trip to Reno with my husband. How could she be dying? Why now, God? This was supposed to be the weekend I would put the…
Boundaries…What Boundaries?
When Mike and I first talked about moving in with my mom after her stroke, my sister in law gave us some advice. “Talk to a counselor. You need to make sure all of you understand boundaries.” At the time, I thought she was making something out of nothing. I could handle Mom and her…
Grouchiness, Aging and Dementia
Question from a reader: My aging grandmother is becoming more grouchy and pushy. She doesn’t hesitate to voice whatever she thinks, whether or not it’s rude. How does a Christian deal with that? The Bible says to honor our father and mother, so how do we honor our aging loved ones when they act like…
A New Season of Caregiving – Part 3
The move in with my mom is a work in process. A very slow process. I’m finding out how easy it is to gather stuff. For instance, I have enough rags to fill a garbage bin. Do they reproduce while in the dark linen closet? I’ve compartmentalized the emotional part of the move. It’s there,…
A New Season of Caregiving – Part 1
“What would you think about moving in with Mom?” my husband asked one recent evening. Before the last syllable died in the ensuing silence, I was already shaking my head from side to side. “No. Nope. No way.” There would be bloodshed. Not mine. A few weeks later, he brought it up again. My 93-year-old…