Autumn colors, leaves falling, daylight savings; these are signs the season has changed from the lazy days of summer.

There are signs of the changes in the caregiving season as well.

• Your aging parent is becoming more forgetful

• Your loved one is showing more fear of going out or falling down

• He or she expresses dissatisfaction or discouragement that they’ve lived this long

• They begin to rely more heavily on you as their friends move into assisted living

• They show signs of depression because many of their friends have died

aging loved one, change in the caregiving seasonWhen my father’s health began to decline, I often wondered if aliens had abducted him and replaced him with an old, feeble man. He’d always been robust, with a booming laugh. This guy didn’t resemble my dad at all.

One of my earliest memories of my dad is when he took my brothers and me to Disneyland. I was born the same year Disneyland opened. I couldn’t have been more than four when we went for the first time. Dad worked for General Electric, so we got passes to the GE VIP lounge in Disneyland. I’ll never forget the look of delight on Dad’s face as he watched my brothers and me stare with open-mouthed awe at the wonder of Disneyland. His smile spread from one ear to the other. He stood tall and proud as we entered the GE lounge, feeling like a big shot as we were served food and sodas. He was my hero. He was thirty-seven years old and sitting on top of the world.

change in the caregiving seasonNow he was hunched over his walker, feeling every moment of his eighty-eight years. His face wore the perpetual scowl of pain, his high spirits leached out from living too long in a body that betrayed him.

I wish it were true about the aliens. At least I could hope they’d return him someday.

As your life changes to accommodate the growing needs of your elderly loved one, consider the gift of having your parents still with you. Consider this:

is it legal to order clomid online can you buy topamax over the counter in uk “To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honors.” ― click Tia Walker , The Inspired Caregiver: Finding Joy While Caring for Those You Love

You might be annoyed at the additional time your parent needs from you, but take a step back and consider how your parents must feel as they face diminished capacities. When people first start “slipping,” they are aware of the loss, and they are often terrified, scared, and saddened.

Consider how you can share in your loved ones’ losses. Talk openly with your parents. Ask them to express their fears and their needs. Meditate on this verse from 1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”change in the caregiving season

It’s easy to ignore the blessings that come your way when you care for your aging parents.


This blog has been updated from the original blog in 2015.


jane s daly, Author of The Caregiving SeasonJane S. Daly is the author of two books, Because of Grace (2015) and The Caregiving Season (2016). She is also the treasurer of Inspire Christian Writers and West Coast Christian Writers.

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