Marriage on Purpose
Author: Dr. Deborah C Bauers , Jane Daly
Publish: March 4, 2024
Publisher: Independently published
Format: ebook, Paperback, hardcover
ISBN: 979-8396721180
Pages: 152
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Book Description:

Communicate More, Fight Less, and Achieve the Intimacy You've Always Wanted.

Sara and Brett came together for their first session with cannons loaded and ready to fire upon each other. While they both talked about wanting to learn to communicate better, they admitted that most of their disagreements turned into fights. When I asked them about the intimacy they shared, he said that even "make-up sex" wasn't happening much. Emotional safety wasn't even a concept they could wrap their minds around. Sara and Brett were a bit taken aback when I stopped them from verbally attacking each other. I explained that they were going to have to earn the right to confront each other while rebuilding trust between each of them. Over time, they would learn how to confront issues instead of each other. They agreed to try not to use you in any aggressive or accusatory manner. Instead, they were going to learn to communicate with each other using I and we. This would help them focus on changing behavioral patterns instead of attacking each other.

Over the coming weeks, we explored three specific questions that would help them purposefully work on healing their relationship. I asked them to prayerfully ask God's Holy Spirit to begin to transform their unhelpful behaviors and turn their hearts toward each other. By focusing, first, on the foundation of Brett and Sara's marriage, the couple learned how to establish real mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy. As their emotional connection deepened, they began to respect and trust each other. Brett and Sara learned that God's Holy Spirit was inside of them, championing their marriage while still seeing them as individuals. He wanted them to each take responsibility for their own behaviors as husband and wife and to learn humility and forgiveness. God wanted them to have a purpose-driven marriage.

In Marriage on Purpose, you will also meet Mark and Jillian, a forty-something couple who tragically lost their son in a car accident. Their inability to grieve together was threatening to wreck their marriage. Next, you'll read about Damien and Juanita who are trying to rebuild their relationship after infidelity.

If you've never considered pornography to be a form of infidelity in a marriage, Marriage on Purpose will challenge you to see this problem as a bigger deal than you might have previously considered it. You will also be challenged to consider the impact of abuse on marriage and discover what the next steps are when abuse occurs. How can one spouse truly forgive another? How does God view divorce? Marriage on Purpose will explore these tough questions and send you seeking answers beyond even the pages of this book.

Sara and Brett, Mark and Jillian, Damian and Juanita: All of these couples will learn how to build foundations of intimacy that will help them rediscover the joy of marriage. By turning their hearts toward each other, they will each understand how to own their contributions to the relationship and work together to resolve their differences.

Author Details:

Deborah Bauers is a freelance author, educator and Licensed Professional Counselor with 35 years of experience in her field, both as a pastor’s wife and as a clinician. She holds a Masters Degree from Liberty University and a Doctorate from Andersonville Theological Seminary.

Whether in the office or classroom, traveling to a speaking engagement or engaging with her right grandchildren, she values relationships and meaningful encounters with individuals from all walks of life. Deborah and her husband have designed and implemented a Marriage Mentor Ministry in their local church. She supervises the use of the Prepare-Enrich Assessment and implements her marriage model as a tool in the work that the church’s mentor couples do with married couples. Deborah also oversees sub-ministries which include premarital and parenting focus groups.

Dr. Bauers’ writing portfolio is diverse. In addition to being published in a number of online mental health publications, she has developed a tried-and-true marital model called "Three Questions to Heal a Marriage” that serves as an assessment tool and framework for clinicians.

Deborah’s writing skills include expertise in technical writing and white paper production, freelance journalism, and works of fiction. She is a former recipient of the Pulitzer Citizen Journalism Award for her essay on Latin America's views of US politics in light of the pervasive influence of Venezuela's former President, Hugo Chavez.

Dr. Bauers is a former writer for in Colorado Springs. She is also a former facilitator of the Mental Health Platform at Deborah has prior experience as a newspaper mental health columnist with the Post Independent in Garfield County, Colorado. Deborah served as an adjunct Professor in Counseling/Psychology for King's University and Seminary for 10 years.

Dr. Bauers is a first responder and critical incident stress management specialist and has been present during two church shootings. She and her husband have appeared on live television and radio to share these life-changing events. Dr. Bauers believes that the church is only as vital and life-giving as are its marriages and families. Deborah loves supporting the local church through hands-on ministry.

Author Details:

After a successful career in banking, Jane dipped her toes into writing after a life-changing event – the death of her 30-year-old son. Her book, Because of Grace, has given hope to many mothers who have experienced the same shattering grief.
She then chronicled her journey through caregiving. The Caregiving Season was born from the years spent caring for her elderly mother.

But imagining stories has always been her first love. Jane’s novels have won the Cascade Award from the (formerly Oregon Christian Writers) Cascade Christian Writers organization and in 2023 her novel, Broken, was a Carol Award semi-finalist.

In 2021, Jane and her husband sold their home and gave away most of their possessions to travel full-time in their Class A motorhome. When she isn’t gazing out the windshield and thinking about her next book, she can be found hunched over her computer, pounding out the next novel.