Caregiving Is More Than Food

Sometimes Mom, Mike, and I sit around the table and reminisce. We’ll all start laughing so hard our eyes water. I cherish those times. I realize I’m not just my mother’s caregiver; I’m still her daughter, and I like the dual role. Jesus spent the last night of his life having supper with his twelve…

Boundaries for Caregivers

When you’re in the position of caring for your parent, it’s easy to revert to being a child again, especially if your relationship was never healthy to begin with. It can be difficult to create a boundary as an adult if no boundaries have previously existed. How do we draw that boundary line? Consider how…

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Squeezed Between Two Generations of Caregiving

I was my dad’s favorite. I don’t think my brothers will argue with me. He was hard on them, easy on me. That’s my girl is a phrase I heard often. He wasn’t given to physical affection. I never remember him saying, “I love you.” But that’s my girl was the same thing. My father’s…

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The Manipulated Caregiver

 “What time do you leave for work in the morning?” It’s 7:30 at night, and my mom has called to ask me a seemingly innocuous question. “Usually around 8:00 or so.” My hand grips the phone, waiting for the sucker punch. “Oh,” she says, with a sigh. The silence lengthens. I’m determined to wait her…

Meditations for Caregivers

Are you a caregiver, in need of encouragement? Shelly Beach has written a beautiful devotional book for those in the Caregiving Season. I highly recommend this book, and also Ambushed By Grace. Caregivers face many hurdles. Sometimes we need to stop, rest, and reflect on good things. Each chapter contains useful sidebars, i.e. Roadside Rest,…

Give yourself a break – Caregivers need care too!

I recently returned from a long weekend, across the southern California to Rosarito Beach, Mexico. It was a much-needed trip away from the day to day routine of working and caregiving. I spent a lot of time thinking, while staring at the endless waves crashing onto the shore. My thoughts turned to you, caregivers who…

I Can’t Hear You

They have ears, but they hear not. Psalm 135:17 I recently had a conversation with my mother that went something like this: Me:      Mike and I are going to a movie this weekend. Mom:   What? You’re moving? Me:      No, we’re going to a MOVIE. Mom:   Oh, what are you going to see? Me:      Saturn Rising.…

When Caregiving Grows Cold: Caring for an elderly parent

Winter brings short days, inclement weather, and bleak landscapes. Plants die, dropping their withered leaves on barren ground. Sometimes our souls become as stark as leafless trees, or like branches weighted with heavy snow. Have you ever wished for a respite from the daily tasks of caring for an elderly parent? I know that the…