When Your Caregiving World Collides with Life

When you work full time and also have responsibility for your aging parent, sometimes the two worlds collide. Work pressures suck your emotional energy until you feel as dry as a shed snake skin. It’s a monumental task to dredge up enough strength to deal with the demands of caregiving. All you want to do…

Finding a New Normal – Caregiving from Afar

This is a guest post from Ada Gerard, whose husband has FTD, a form of dementia. Her blog is gotoyourcornersandcomeoutloving.BlogSpot.com. Other than when he or I went on business trips, backpacking or visiting family, Gary and I were rarely apart for long periods of time. We always came home to each other. In 30 years,…

Changing Positions on the Team

A guest post from Ada Gerard, gotoyourcorners.blogspot.com/ Sitting in the living room at Gary’s Memory Care center, I overhear some hilarious conversations.  The residents talk with each other, and neither of them know what the other is talking about. For example: One female resident picked up her purse to go to her room for the…

Give yourself a break – Caregivers need care too!

I recently returned from a long weekend, across the southern California to Rosarito Beach, Mexico. It was a much-needed trip away from the day to day routine of working and caregiving. I spent a lot of time thinking, while staring at the endless waves crashing onto the shore. My thoughts turned to you, caregivers who…

I Can’t Hear You

Have you ever ignored someone speaking to you? Perhaps she asked you to do something you didn’t want to do (this is especially pervasive in the teen years). Sometimes I pretend I can’t hear my husband when he asks me for the seventh time how to find a document on the computer. He admits to…

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The Mind Thief

This is a guest post from Ada, whose husband has dementia. There are many feelings associated with losing a loved one to dementia.  He is still here physically and mentally, there is a person there, but not necessarily my Gary.  It is some other form of a man. He doesn’t think like him, nor act like…

Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support

Caregivers for Alzheimer’s and Dementia Face Special Challenges Information about early-stage caregiving, middle-stage caregiving, or late-stage caregiving, is available on the the Alzheimer’s Association website Alz.org Alzheimer’s Support for Caregivers Online: Discussion Groups, Videos and more… http://alzonline.phhp.ufl.edu/ A discussion group: https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx Newly diagnosed? These sites may be helpful: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/caregiving/support-for-alzheimers-and-dementia-caregivers.htm You can learn about their Alzheimer’s…

I Can’t Hear You

They have ears, but they hear not. Psalm 135:17 I recently had a conversation with my mother that went something like this: Me:      Mike and I are going to a movie this weekend. Mom:   What? You’re moving? Me:      No, we’re going to a MOVIE. Mom:   Oh, what are you going to see? Me:      Saturn Rising.…

Don’t Upset Me, Or Else! Aging and Routines

Aging Parents, Caring for the elderly “My mom/dad is driving me crazy! She gets upset over the tiniest thing. She blames me when anything upsets her schedule.” Sound familiar? As a caregiver, you may have said the same thing on more than one occasion. I know I have. If you’re caring for an elderly parent, it’s important to…