generations of caregiving

Squeezed Between Two Generations of Caregiving

I was my dad’s favorite. I don’t think my brothers will argue with me. He was hard on them, easy on me. That’s my girl is a phrase I heard often. He wasn’t given to physical affection. I never remember him saying, “I love you.” But that’s my girl was the same thing. My father’s…

Chicken Skin and other signs of aging

    “EEK!” My husband, Mike, ran into the bedroom. “What happened? Do I need to kill a spider?” “NO,” I wailed. I stared at my reflection in the mirror, pinching the skin of my upper arm. “I have chicken skin.” I turned to show him. “Honey, you’re still as beautiful to me as the…

Give yourself a break – Caregivers need care too!

I recently returned from a long weekend, across the southern California to Rosarito Beach, Mexico. It was a much-needed trip away from the day to day routine of working and caregiving. I spent a lot of time thinking, while staring at the endless waves crashing onto the shore. My thoughts turned to you, caregivers who…

Answers to Your Caregiving Questions

There is lots of information for those navigating the Caregiving Season, from financial to medical, find answers to your caregiving questions. www.caregivinganswers.com has blogs on subjects such as: How to talk to your parent about moving into assisted living Are there any local support groups in my area What’s the difference between home care and…

My Mother’s Hands

My mother gave me her ring. She can’t wear it anymore. Her once slender fingers have become swollen with arthritis. Four perfectly matched diamonds are mounted in a row on a gold band. I always thought it was her wedding ring because she’s worn it for as long as I can remember. She recently told…

dimentia mind thief

The Mind Thief

This is a guest post from Ada, whose husband has dementia. There are many feelings associated with losing a loved one to dementia.  He is still here physically and mentally, there is a person there, but not necessarily my Gary.  It is some other form of a man. He doesn’t think like him, nor act like…

I Can’t Hear You

They have ears, but they hear not. Psalm 135:17 I recently had a conversation with my mother that went something like this: Me:      Mike and I are going to a movie this weekend. Mom:   What? You’re moving? Me:      No, we’re going to a MOVIE. Mom:   Oh, what are you going to see? Me:      Saturn Rising.…

Don’t Upset Me, Or Else! Aging and Routines

Aging Parents, Caring for the elderly “My mom/dad is driving me crazy! She gets upset over the tiniest thing. She blames me when anything upsets her schedule.” Sound familiar? As a caregiver, you may have said the same thing on more than one occasion. I know I have. If you’re caring for an elderly parent, it’s important to…