age related hearing loss

I Can’t Hear You – Part 2

When an older adult loses their hearing, they face the same fears as anyone with a different kind of disability. They worry about being marginalized, or seen as incompetent, or even stupid. Sometimes they lash out at the ones who try to help. Since Mike is semi-retired, he spends more time with my mom on…

Everyone I know Is Dead – Part 2

Aging and isolation, helping elders cope with seclusion when they start losing loved ones. I met Alene when she lived with her son, Greg and his wife. She is another elderly woman who struggled with loss and loneliness, but her story is different. When Alene became too frail for Greg and his wife to provide…

New Year, Same Old Caregiving

As we look to a brand new year, it brings to mind new beginnings. A fresh start. Maybe do things differently this year. Here are some resolutions I’ve made to make 2017 better than 2016 in my role as caregiver for my ninety-three-year-old mother: Give more grace. I need to remind myself that she’s 93,…

When Your Caregiving World Collides with Life

When you work full time and also have responsibility for your aging parent, sometimes the two worlds collide. Work pressures suck your emotional energy until you feel as dry as a shed snake skin. It’s a monumental task to dredge up enough strength to deal with the demands of caregiving. All you want to do…

Give yourself a break – Caregivers need care too!

I recently returned from a long weekend, across the southern California to Rosarito Beach, Mexico. It was a much-needed trip away from the day to day routine of working and caregiving. I spent a lot of time thinking, while staring at the endless waves crashing onto the shore. My thoughts turned to you, caregivers who…

I Can’t Hear You

Have you ever ignored someone speaking to you? Perhaps she asked you to do something you didn’t want to do (this is especially pervasive in the teen years). Sometimes I pretend I can’t hear my husband when he asks me for the seventh time how to find a document on the computer. He admits to…

I Can’t Hear You

They have ears, but they hear not. Psalm 135:17 I recently had a conversation with my mother that went something like this: Me:      Mike and I are going to a movie this weekend. Mom:   What? You’re moving? Me:      No, we’re going to a MOVIE. Mom:   Oh, what are you going to see? Me:      Saturn Rising.…

The Spring of the Caregiving Season

        “What happened to your parents’ garage?” Mike asked over dinner one night. “What do you mean?” I twirled spaghetti noodles around my fork, wondering where this was going. “The side is kind of splintered, like something ran into it.” After dinner, I hiked down the alley separating our two homes to…