Kuleana and Caregiving

At a conference I attended, a speaker used a Hawaiian word I’d never heard before: kuleana. It means a responsibility, but it’s more than a duty or task. It also carries a connotation of privilege. I wondered if I could apply this to caring for my mother. Could I adjust my perspective, and view this…

Are You a Caregiver?

  Caregiving can be a thankless, exhausting thing to do. Or it can be rewarding and fulfilling. Sometimes it’s both. There is hope. I’ve written a book called “The Caregiving Season: Finding Grace to Honor Your Aging Parent.” My prayer as you read is that you’ll find hope and grace, as I have, in my…

When Your Caregiving World Collides with Life

When you work full time and also have responsibility for your aging parent, sometimes the two worlds collide. Work pressures suck your emotional energy until you feel as dry as a shed snake skin. It’s a monumental task to dredge up enough strength to deal with the demands of caregiving. All you want to do…

generations of caregiving

Squeezed Between Two Generations of Caregiving

I was my dad’s favorite. I don’t think my brothers will argue with me. He was hard on them, easy on me. That’s my girl is a phrase I heard often. He wasn’t given to physical affection. I never remember him saying, “I love you.” But that’s my girl was the same thing. My father’s…

Don’t Upset Me — Or Else! …Caring for the elderly

Aging Parents, Caring for the elderly “My mom/dad is driving me crazy! She gets upset over the tiniest thing. She blames me when anything upsets her schedule.” Sound familiar? As a caregiver, you may have said the same thing on more than one occasion. I know I have. If you’re caring for an elderly parent, it’s important to…

Meditations for Caregivers

Are you a caregiver, in need of encouragement? Shelly Beach has written a beautiful devotional book for those in the Caregiving Season. I highly recommend this book, and also Ambushed By Grace. Caregivers face many hurdles. Sometimes we need to stop, rest, and reflect on good things. Each chapter contains useful sidebars, i.e. Roadside Rest,…

Chicken Skin and other signs of aging

    “EEK!” My husband, Mike, ran into the bedroom. “What happened? Do I need to kill a spider?” “NO,” I wailed. I stared at my reflection in the mirror, pinching the skin of my upper arm. “I have chicken skin.” I turned to show him. “Honey, you’re still as beautiful to me as the…