Reduce caregiving stress over the Holidays

Several years ago, our family gathered for the traditional Christmas dinner. We were at the home of my brother and sister-in-law. An argument ensued over a proposed expansion of a nearby Catholic Church. My dad, who was in a wheelchair, started complaining about being cold. My nephew, who has autism, started muttering loudly. I remember…

When Your Caregiving World Collides with Life

When you work full time and also have responsibility for your aging parent, sometimes the two worlds collide. Work pressures suck your emotional energy until you feel as dry as a shed snake skin. It’s a monumental task to dredge up enough strength to deal with the demands of caregiving. All you want to do…

Caregiving Is More Than Food

Sometimes Mom, Mike, and I sit around the table and reminisce. We’ll all start laughing so hard our eyes water. I cherish those times. I realize I’m not just my mother’s caregiver; I’m still her daughter, and I like the dual role. Jesus spent the last night of his life having supper with his twelve…

I Can’t Hear You

Have you ever ignored someone speaking to you? Perhaps she asked you to do something you didn’t want to do (this is especially pervasive in the teen years). Sometimes I pretend I can’t hear my husband when he asks me for the seventh time how to find a document on the computer. He admits to…

Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support

Caregivers for Alzheimer’s and Dementia Face Special Challenges Information about early-stage caregiving, middle-stage caregiving, or late-stage caregiving, is available on the the Alzheimer’s Association website Alz.org Alzheimer’s Support for Caregivers Online: Discussion Groups, Videos and more… http://alzonline.phhp.ufl.edu/ A discussion group: https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx Newly diagnosed? These sites may be helpful: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/caregiving/support-for-alzheimers-and-dementia-caregivers.htm You can learn about their Alzheimer’s…

What’s Your Story? Leaving a Legacy for Your family

History is what makes us who we are. A couple of years ago, my husband, Mike, and his entire family, all five siblings and their spouses, came together over a family tragedy, the death of our thirty-year-old son. The night before his memorial service, we gathered together for dinner at my brother-in-laws’ home. As families…

Growing Older – A Caregiver’s Perspective

Where did I leave my glasses? Why did I come into this room?   Speak louder. I can’t hear you. I won’t be able to go to your party; I don’t like to drive at night. Why don’t my kids call? All they want to do is text. If you’re older than sixty-five, you may…

Don’t Touch My Money: Financial Elder Abuse

Financial elder abuse is when an older adult is financially exploited by a stranger. It’s even worse when it’s someone they know, like a family member or caregiver. Financial elder abuse crosses all social, educational, and economic boundaries. My mom’s phone rang one fall morning. “Grandma?” asked the male voice on the other end. “Mark?”…

Caregiving Through the Holidays

        Several years ago, our family gathered for the traditional Christmas dinner. We were at the home of my brother and sister-in-law. An argument ensued over a proposed expansion of a nearby Catholic Church. My dad, who was in a wheelchair, started complaining about being cold. My nephew, who has autism, started…

Don’t Upset Me, Or Else! Aging and Routines

Aging Parents, Caring for the elderly “My mom/dad is driving me crazy! She gets upset over the tiniest thing. She blames me when anything upsets her schedule.” Sound familiar? As a caregiver, you may have said the same thing on more than one occasion. I know I have. If you’re caring for an elderly parent, it’s important to…